On raising our kids

As Sean mentioned, Josh has become a little sweetheart. I say this with some reservation because, first, his demeanor really had only one direction to go, and second, he does still have a very aloof side that can drive us crazy. Still, for the most part, he’s a joy. One example of why I can say this is because Josh decided that when he wakes in the middle night he shouldn’t wake Mommy up. Let me explain.

Josh typically gets thirsty through the night. Almost every night he wants something to drink. Then, of course, he goes to the bathroom, which also wakes him up. For some time, he would call out for me every time he needed a drink or was wet. One morning (Josh is also an early riser) when he got up for our morning ritual of cuddling up in the rocking chair to watch some TV, I explained to him that he couldn’t wake me up anymore in the middle of the night, that mommy needs sleep, and that when I don’t get enough sleep, I’m very cranky the next day. He was listening intently and agreed that he didn’t want a cranky mommy. That night when he went to bed, I told him to sleep all night and let mommy get a good night sleep too. He smiled and said his adorable, “Okay Mama.” Sure enough when he needed something to drink or got too wet, he called out for Daddy and has every night since. What a good boy!!! And now, just about every morning when he wakes up, I say, “Good Morning my wonderful boy,” and he says, “I didn’t wake Mama up!”

Ellie has asked some tough questions lately. One of her teachers recently had a baby, which of course prompted considerable curiosity.

Ellie: “Mom, when I get older, will I just get a baby?”

Me: “No, Ellie, it usually doesn’t work that way. Usually, you meet someone very special, get married, and the two of you decide to have a baby.”

Ellie: “I think I’ll just marry Josh. I already know him.”

Me: “No, honey, people don’t marry their brothers or sisters.”

Ellie: “But, I love Josh. I want to marry Josh.”

Me: “Mama didn’t marry one of her brothers. I met your daddy. He was a very special friend, and we got married.”

Ellie: “Hmm. When I get married, will we buy a bigger house so that person can have his own bedroom? Like maybe we could get a house with an upstairs, and he could live upstairs”

Me: “I suppose that could happen.”

Ellie: “And if Josh gets married, can his wife and my husband share a room?”

Me: “No honey, I think it would be best if they had their own rooms.”

Ellie: “Mom, how does the baby actually come out?”

Me: “Hmm, good question.” –

Ellie: “I know your stomach doesn’t just explode, so how does it come out?”

I gave a very brief description, which prompted a whole set of related questions, but eventually we came to a basic understanding that seemed to satisfy Ellie. Three days later, I get this:

Ellie: “Mom, next time you pick me up from school, can you tell Maddie how babies come out because her mom didn’t tell her.”

Me: “Ellie, that’s a conversation mothers should have with their own children.”

Ellie: “Well, maybe you can tell her mom then, so she can tell Maddie.”